ahahah dude
i play vs my brother as well and i got the EXACT same problem.. he's always england and i'm always france.. and he' always seems to have joe cole "Free" on the wing and Wright Phillips on the other wing..
it's annoying because he always puts in those deep crosses and sometimes scores because rooney's stats are buffed.
i normally just pull my defence back onto the defensive 18yard line so they are ready fro the winger's charge.
works quite well
hope that helps