I know how you feel...whatever people on here say, you're right it's unrealistically fast though some matches it seems ok - dunno why?! At least there is an option for it on FIFA.
I think the main problem is the short pass speed. And, as in every PES, some players' agility and acceleration is too high.
It'd take ages but if I had time I'd set an entire team's short pass speed to 20 or whatever and play a match (against same team).
If that doesn't do it then maybe learn to play with manual pass, someone recommended it on here.
It ruins an otherwise great game. It's my first PES on next gen, I've thought about going back to PS2 - the way PES is meant to be. And it#s not about personal taste, it's about realism.